Comments for Impetuous Meanderings

Comment on Civic Test by ckay

ckay — Sun, 05 Sep 2010 03:44:52 +0000

Like. Questions seem easy but then I think of what I see around me and I guess that they are perfect. It’s a sad state when people stop questioning and just follow blindly. Believe blindly and pervert news to propaganda.
I personally am sick to the core of undocumented information being spread about like a disease and even though “educated” people are sending it to me they still fail to check to see if the information is factual.
We are Human because we can reason. We should gather information and then reason for ourselves.

Comment on Smoke’em if you got ‘em by ckay

ckay — Thu, 02 Sep 2010 04:49:41 +0000

Oh, on another point. In Utah…where I moved to LA from. Smoking is ONLY in the bars and clubs. I hated that because I was DJing…ok not real djing..Karaoke Jockey..lol and the mikes would get soooo nasty because of all the smoke. It was the only place smokers could go. I struggled over live singing because I also have allergies with smoke especially in large doses. The concentrated billows left me hoarse and sore. I’d rather the listeners be there because they wanted to enjoy the music… not because it’s the only place legal to smoke…

Comment on Smoke’em if you got ‘em by ckay

ckay — Thu, 02 Sep 2010 04:44:29 +0000

Oh my… you reminded me of when my younger sister would roll, physically cuz we had a handle, down the window and yell …” You’re gonna die. That’s a cancer stick!”. I blame the school’s no tolerance rule. Smoking is considered a drug to my 11 year old. That is what he was taught in school. I have to remind him that it’s a choice. It’s not illegal. A person isn’t “bad” because they choose to smoke…cigarettes or anything else for that matter. Yes, I do prefer he doesn’t start that particular habit. Not because smokers are “bad” but because it’s a tough one to stop. It’s a bit scary what kids are taught theses days, less choice more conforming. It’s sad that our society is run by rightsided-mindedness. i’ll take choice any day. Hope this wasn’t too politically charged for you all.

Comment on Smoke’em if you got ‘em by celestevoce

celestevoce — Mon, 30 Aug 2010 06:16:36 +0000

No offense, ehawk, but if I start coughing when I walk by someone who is smoking it’s because I’m severely allergic to cigarette smoke and it’s giving me an allergy attack.

Comment on Smoke’em if you got ‘em by ehawk

ehawk — Tue, 24 Aug 2010 14:53:09 +0000

I couldn’t agree more with every point you have made…..and one thing that really annoys me (as a smoker), is when someone walks by and “obviously fakes” a little cough! That is taking it a bit too far in my estimation! With that being said, think I’ll step outside for a few!

Comment on Smoke’em if you got ‘em by celestevoce

celestevoce — Sat, 21 Aug 2010 00:26:26 +0000

My problem with restaurants having smoking outside is that I often have to walk through the clouds of smoke to get in, AND many times, if the door is either left open, or constantly opened and closed, the smoke gets in the restaurant quite a bit anyway. There has to be more of a happy medium — like the smoking areas at Disneyland, which aren’t in the middle of a place where people walk, but aren’t completely out of the way. The one thing I noticed when I was living in the UK, which was shortly after the smoking ban in pubs and restaurants was that the way smokers acted appeared to be a class issue. It seemed for the most part that older (and often wealthier) people who smoked would always try to step in a nook, out of the way or downwind from passersby, whereas young people who smoked walked down the street smoking, not caring whose face their smoke was blowing into. Perhaps it’s all just a matter of manners on both sides?

Now go cold turkey!

Comment on The-rapy by dangerousideas

dangerousideas — Fri, 06 Aug 2010 08:10:27 +0000

ckay- there’s no need to be afraid of what will happen, you’re simply talking with someone who can give you expert advice. You don’t give up any of your self to that person or allow them to control you, you just try and be honest with them so they can help you solve the problems you’re facing. If you feel like it, it’s ok to let go emotionally (tears, anger, etc.) with them- they’re used to that and are experienced in how to deal with that.

Nor would I worry about having some sudden personality shift where the “real you” comes out in some uncontrollable way. I guarantee you, nothing that dramatic is going to happen. They’re not exorcists.To the extent that you are repressing or running from some part of you that scares you, a good therapist can help you identify and come to grips with that in a gentle, supportive way. Be assured, unless you’re a bonafide sociopath, the real “real you” is not a wld, out-of-control creature, it’s a sane, healthy, balanced, relatively happy, perhaps a bit quirky, rational, fully functional, capable, sensitive, empathetic, artistic, person; capable of growth, love and being loved. That’s what a good therapist will help you to be, if you want it.

Comment on The-rapy by ckay

ckay — Fri, 06 Aug 2010 04:09:57 +0000

thanks.

Comment on The-rapy by impetuousmeanderings

impetuousmeanderings — Thu, 05 Aug 2010 16:03:51 +0000

@CKAY -

I would first say, let go of the “mental, emotional, physical well being in someone else’s hands” line of thinking. Therapy, counseling, is not there to strip you of your own personal worth or strength, it is there to support you, guide you, cut through the bullshit we develop to survive day in and day out.

I have gone to therapy many times, for varying lengths. And each time I ended up sitting on that couch because the “excuses” I was using to get through life were just that, excuses. I needed to hear myself talk freely out loud and have someone whose sole purpose is to be non-judgemental and supportive guide me in understanding myself better.

Comment on The-rapy by ckay

ckay — Thu, 05 Aug 2010 04:53:27 +0000

I am glad for all the positive responses. I know my little “14 year old” rant was a little nasty. I have attempted therapy a couple of times. I guess finding the right person is the key. I was torn in college between psych or art for my degree. I studied both to a point then decided to travel instead.
How did any of you get to the point where you felt you could put your mental, emotional or physical well being into someone else’s hands? I would really love to be able to do that. Were any of you afraid of what would happen when the “real” you was allowed to come out and play? I know that’s really a serious question but I have vacillated for years over getting therapy. I obviously need it…I’m just scared as hell not to have any excuses anymore, most likely.